Think about the first things we do when we get home from work after a long day.
- We kick our shoes off at the door.
- We throw our bags down on the table or couch.
- We breathe a deep sigh and think, finally I’m home and I can be myself.
Children feel this way when they get home from school too! They know they are back in a safe and loving environment that they can trust.
And alongside that trust can also come big emotions that have been pent up all day. Frustration, anxiety or even not feeling well can play a factor in how a child reacts when they get home.
In fact, it’s very typical that a child behaves one way at school but totally different at home. Here’s why.
- School is a highly structured environment. A child knows what happens and when. Home is a more relaxed place!
- There is a set of expectations at school that the entire class adheres to. A child knows that if they act a certain way, there could be repercussions from their teacher or classmates. A loving home environment is a bit more forgiving, and a child knows that you will love them no matter what.
- Both adults and children alike show their true emotions when in the safety of their own home. It’s natural that a child will act differently when they have the freedom to unwind and be themselves.
- Children are at school and adults are at work during the day when we have the most amount of energy. By the time we get home, we may be tired and hungry, and not show the same amount of patience or understanding we exhibit during the day.
Do you notice that your child behaves differently when at home versus at school or out in public? Consider the factors above and remember to be forgiving of yourself and your child at the end of a long day!