It’s ok to have a moment to yourself, to finish your conversation with a friend, or to complete a paragraph you’re reading before turning your attention to your child. In the classroom, a Montessori guide might use the phrase, “I’m not available right now.” to let a child know that while you have heard him or her, you aren’t able to respond to their request immediately.
The idea of “not available” can also be applied to a material. For example, if you don’t have any more finger paints at home but your child would like to paint, a simple “it looks like finger painting isn’t available right now” is a judgement-free way to help your child understand that supplies can be limited. Redirecting with “I see that you have crayons available” can help your child make choices based on what is available to them.
Here’s Ms. Wood with some ideas for how to use this phrase!
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